Conscious Relationship

 

Imagine how it might be if:

  • Instead of accepting things as they are, you and your partner formed an evolutionary partnership for the purpose of creating a conscious relationship and an intimate passionate love.
  • You replaced the right-wrong game with taking responsibility for your own feelings and communicating in a clear, empowered, respectful way who you really are and what you want!  Your partner is still responsible for their intentions and actions but not your feelings.
  • You found a good balance between being true to yourself and living your own life on the one hand, and caring for your partner and the needs of the relationship, on the other.
  • You understood your own, and your partners psychological dynamics and how they inter-relate in your relationship – and how to change them for the better.
  • You had the capacity to bring mystery into the familiar, uncertainty into the predictable, and newness into the unknown, thereby solving the problem of familiarity in your relationship.
  • You really knew what it took to turn yourself and your partner on and have hot sex – even sacred Tantric sex.!
  • Anya Shekina and Paul Vogue, a highly skilled, professionally trained couple,who used their skills to transform their own relationship and the relationship of countless others, helped you achieve all of this?

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Conscious Relationship

Is your coupledom represented here?

Many couples who love each other are frustrated and disappointed with their highly valued but imperfect relationship.

Other couples are basically content but know that their relationship is not all that it could be or that they would like it to be.

Problems with sexual desire, arousal and fulfillment can be a thorn in both types of relationship.

Most couples have a desire for the end of relationship conflicts, deeper emotional intimacy, and more passionate sex.

Some couples have a longing for the intertwining of sexual passion with soul union .
Others would be content with having good sex frequently enough – or the reverse, sex largely being forgotten about.

Some fortunate couples feel that they are soul mates and are profoundly satisfied with their relationship.  They just wish there was more passion and newness in their sex?   There are also troublesome glitches at times that they have trouble dealing with and wish would go away for good.

Or they have a passionate and happy relationship and want to take it to the next level and experience  even greater intimacy and more transcendent sex, because such a great love deserves it.

If you want an Intimate Passionate Love with your highly significant partner and the early romantic
phase of biochemical turn-on has already been passed through, one indispensable ingredient is the
development of a conscious relationship.

It is hard to face the fact that you may not have a conscious relationship. This is especially so, when you are intelligent, compassionate human beings, who care deeply for each other, and who might even have achieved what others might describe as a good, even enviable, relationship. We know. It was so for us.

Could unconsciousness in your relationship be a block to intimacy and passion?

How do you know if there is enough unconsciousness in your relationship for it to be a roadblock to the intimacy and passion that you seek?

If

    • You are having arguments and fights, and the same old issues keep re-emerging.
    • You push each others buttons and react to each other when that happens in the same old alienating ways.
    • You’re always too tired or too busy for quality time with each other.
    • Your not so lovely behavior sometimes surprises even you, and,
    • Your appetite for sexual love is no longer a powerful force in your lives and you are not doing anything much about it.

      You are dealing with a certain amount of unconsciousness in your relationship

    The good news is that you can do something about it.

    Click here for information about Private Coaching

    Click here for information about Conscious Relationship Workshops

    INTEGRATIVE COACHING APPROACH

     

    TEACHING AGENDA

     

    If you turn to us for support in creating

    A more conscious relationship and intimate passionate love

    You will learn to do such things as:

     

    • Developing a realistic sense of yourself

    • Affirming and accepting yourself

    • Confronting yourself

    • Comforting yourself

    • Recognizing and tempering your emotions

    • Making soul commitments

    • Make new, more appropriate to the present, responses to life and your partner.

    • Stretch yourself beyond your limited conditioned perspectives, automatic responses, and survival mechanisms.

    • Give up the right-wrong game and take responsibility for your feelings.

    • Find a balance between intimacy and solitude

    • Express your own unique creativity

    • Develop a stimulating, enriching life outside of your partnership – both with, and separate from, your partner.

    • Know what you think and feel and be responsive and expressive to your partner and others.

    • Change your emotional biochemistry and diminish stress and mood addictions.

    • Communicate in an empowered, compassionate, authentic way designed to express your truth without triggering your partner.

    • Turn yourself and your partner on during sex.

    • Solve sexual problems you wish to overcome – including, where possible, health related sexual problems.

    • And, if you wish, Tantra, the path of sacred love, sacred sex, sacred life.

    • Togetherness with Separateness

    • Love and Companionship with Freedom and Autonomy

    • Safety, Security, and Familiarity with Uncertainty, Edginess, and Mystery

    • Intimacy with Solitude

    • Emotional Intimacy with Sexual Intimacy (yes, they often are polarities)

    • Instead of accepting things as they are, you and your partner formed an evolutionary partnership for the purpose of creating a conscious relationship and an intimate passionate love.



    • You replaced the right-wrong game with taking responsibility for your own feelings and
      communicating in a clear, empowered, respectful way who you really are and what you want!



    • You found a good balance between being true to yourself and living your own life on the one hand, and caring for your partner and the needs of the relationship, on the other.



    • You understood your own, and your partners psychological dynamics and how they inter-relate in your relationship – and how to change them for the better.



    • You had the capacity to bring mystery into the familiar, uncertainty into the predictable, and newness into the unknown, thereby solving the problem of familiarity in your relationship.



    • You really knew what it took to turn yourself and your partner on and have hot sex!



    • Anya Shekina and Paul Vogue, a highly skilled, professionally trained couple,

      who used their skills to transform their own relationship and the relationship of countless others, helped you and your partner achieve all of this?

  • The good news is that you can do something about it.

    Click here for information about Private Coaching

    Click here for information about Conscious Relationship Workshops

    Private Coaching

    TEACHING AGENDA

    INTEGRATIVE COACHING APPROACH

    TEACHING AGENDA

    If you turn to us for support in creating
    A more conscious relationship and intimate passionate love
    You will learn to do such things as:

    We will help you form an evolutionary partnership for the purpose of creating a conscious relationship in which you and your partner are no longer controlled by your own and each others past conditioning, repressed fears and feelings, false, negative beliefs, unworkable life decisions and defense strategies, and the uncomfortable, self-fulfilling life scripts that arise out of all of this to the disadvantage of yourselves and your relationship.

    We will teach each of you how to do the work of identifying and changing your psychological dynamics and the interplay of these dynamics with your partners. These are the primary reasons that there is unconsciousness in your relationship, in spite of the fact that you both of you may experience yourself as a capable, skilled, caring human beings with much to offer your partner.

    We will help you to find your own way to balance all the conflicting polarities that trouble almost all long term relationships:

    You will learn how to walk the transitional path from unconscious to conscious relationship, which is a self-affirming act of consciousness in itself, and to align yourself with the best in you, which means to align your personality with your unconditioned core essence soul.

    AN INTEGRATIVE COACHING APPROACH

    Our relationship problems, our sexuality, our spirituality, and our health problems are all intertwined. The each impact the other strongly and are both a cause and an effect of each other to a sufficiently significant extent that we strongly advise our clients to deal with them all, to the extent time makes possible, at the same time.

    Our struggles with each other effects our desire for each other and how responsive we are to each other. Our sexual problems effect each other and how we feel about ourselves and towards each other. Our emotions and life-style as they effect our relationship also effect our sexual health, which has its impact on our sexual happiness with each other. The divorce of our spirituality from our everyday life including our sexual experiences, effects our love for ourselves, each other and our sexual interest and pleasure.

    Thus, when you come to us we prefer to with your relationship problems, your sexual problems, your sexual health and also if you wish to teach you Tantra. Because this is a lot, we recommend an extended series of sessions for locals and multiple intensives for out of towners.

    We are willing, however, to do whatever you need and whatever fits your budget. So if what you want is an hour phone consultation to discuss a particular issue that is troubling you both, we will be there for you.

    We have some forms that we request that you fill out prior to seeing us as this will enable us to evaluate where you are and save both time and money for you.

    Our preference is to do an hour session with each one of your privately before we begin working with you together. These sessions can be done on the phone separately with each of you. We do this as we find that in the private session, each person feels freer to open up about what there problems are in relation to their partner, because of the combination of privacy and professional confidentiality.

    A FREE COUPLES CONSULTATION

    We are willing to give a free consultation prior of up to an hour, with both partners, in order to discuss what we offer, what your needs are, and whether we would be appropriate consultants for you.

    Three main ways you can meet with us if you would like to have private coaching

    In person coaching
    In this method either you come to our private home where we teach or we come to your place if our schedule and your finances allow for this. If you are a local person we can meet on a regular basis and stretch the training out over time or do an intensive of any agreed upon amount of time. However for an intensive a full 8 hour day is the minimum. If you are from out of town we will need to do an intensive. We recommend a weekend intensive, or longer. You can be our guest during that time or book into a local hotel.

    Web-cam
    If you have a web-cam on your computer, as we do, we can do private sessions via web-cam almost as satisfactorily as in person. The web cam enables us to give you visual and auditory demonstrations and to watch you as you put what we teach you into practice. Web-cam consultations can be one time or ongoing consultations of any length. In any ongoing consultations we will combine what we teach with literature we send you to read.

    Telephone
    Telephone consultations can be one time or ongoing consultations of any length in which we teach the consciousness and skills you need to develop, help you with relationship problems you are having, and guide you through discussion into more awareness, deeper connection with your partner, and to the transformations. In any ongoing consultations we will combine what we teach with literature we send you to read.

    WORKSHOPS

    Two weekend workshops on

    EVOLUTIONARY PARTNERSHIP: CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP

    PART ONE: Birthing the Beloved: From Conditioned Self to Authentic Core Essence
    Feb 12-13
    San Diego

    PART TWO: Balancing Love & Emotional Connection With Freedom and Individuality
    May 7-8
    San Diego

    Saturday, 9:30 a.m. – 1:30 p.m 2:30 p.m. – 6:30 p.m. (Registration at (9:00 a.m.)
    Sunday, 9:30 a.m. – 1:30 a.m. 2:30 a.m. – 6:30 p.m.

    16 hours per workshop plus one hour lunch for each day
    (Bring a pre-packed lunch. We will provide snacks)

    Early Bird Fee: $375 per person if paid more than 60 days prior to workshop start date.
    Regular Registration: $450 per person if paid less than 60 days prior to workshop start date.

    EVOLUTIONARY PARTNERSHIP: CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP
    PART ONE: Birthing the Beloved: From Conditioned Self to Authentic Core Essence
    2-12-2011 to 2-13-2011

    There is a wounded child in all of us with ego threatening beliefs that we hide from our self and others, but that still lives an active life in us. In response to it and to the conditioning we receive, we develop an adaptive identity through which we adapt to the needs and wishes of others in order to survive and be valued. This adaptive identity also functions as a compensatory identity placed over our “not good enough” frightened hidden part, to enable us to feel good about our self and gain the validation of others.


    When we are in a committed, intimate, lasting relationship our frightened, hidden selves and our adaptive, compensatory identities come out to trigger each other. We upset, threaten, frustrate, and aggravate each other. We do not know how or why it is happening much of the time. We cannot do so until we understand and recognize our own and our partner’s psychological dynamics, and begin to take responsibility for changing our own dynamics and, if agreed to, supporting our partner in the changes they wish to make.


    In this workshop you will learn to:


    Form an evolutionary partnership for the purpose of your personal evolution and the evolution of your partnership into a conscious relationship. To achieve this purpose you will:


    Learn what it means, and what it takes, to have a “Big Love.”


    Identify the childhood programming, and the life-scripts that evolve from that, which interfere with your relationship with your partner.


    Do the work of identifying and changing your psychological dynamics and the interplay of these dynamics with your partners. These are the primary reasons that there is unconsciousness in your relationship.


    Taking responsibility for your own feelings, and the thoughts, beliefs and life decisions that lie behind them, instead of blaming your partner.


    Replace defensive or attacking communication with an empowered, authentic communication approach designed to express your truth and your desires respectfully to your partner.


    Stretch yourself beyond your old conditioned perspectives and automatic responses and strategies that helped you survive in the past, to replace them new responses more appropriate and healthy for the present.


    Learn how to become self-aware and be able to identify your feelings, body sensations and thoughts and the correlation between them.


    Check your intentions and orient your actions so as to create harmony and union.


    Identify your own and your partner’s core essence and to meet each other in the place of the Beloved.



    EVOLUTIONARY PARTNERSHIP: CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP

    PART TWO Balancing Love & Emotional Connection With Freedom and Individuality

    5-7-2011 – 5-8-2011


    There are two fundamental life needs that often seem to conflict in relationship and are seldom resolved to both partner’s satisfaction. One is the need for love and emotional connection and the other is the need for freedom and individuality. So often it seems that in order to keep the peace and avoid creating anxiety in our partner that we have to adapt to them and give up parts of ourselves and what we want to make them happy. In doing so, what we are giving up is being true to ourselves and living the life we want. We are giving up our autonomy.


    Sometimes we come from family and cultural backgrounds which make doing this too threatening and so in order to escape this threat, we withhold the love and intimate emotional connection that our partner desires and that we also need.


    Over the passage of time, familiarity leads to taking each other for granted and some, perhaps most, of the spark goes. In our adaptations to each other and through making safety and security the holy cow of our relationship, We have replaced mystery with the familiar and uncertainty with predictability and we are bored – perhaps even too numbed to know that we are bored.


    This workshop will teach you many different avenues to reconcile these polarities. You will learn:


    How to become your own source for your sense of self worth instead of leaning on your partner to feel your existence’s significance.


    The importance of solitude (intimacy with yourself) to developing intimacy with your partner – and how to bring this into your life.


    How to bring adventure and the unknown into your relationship with your partner – and how to enhance your relationship further by enjoying these with friends, family, and community without your partner.


    The power of presence and how to use it to intensify your experience of each other and build attraction.


    How to change your emotional biochemistry and let go of stress and mood addictions.


    Expect to be surprised!









    In our private instructions, we assist you in going through this process.


    You will learn to:

    develop a realistic sense of yourself, affirm and accept yourself, confront yourself, comfort yourself, and recognize and temper your emotions.

    make soul commitments,

    make new responses to life and your partner that are more appropriate to the present and incongruent with your past.

    Stretch yourself beyond your limited conditioned perspectives and automatic responses and survival mechanism.

    Give up the right-wrong game and take responsibility for your feelings.

    Find a balance between intimacy, solitude, and stimulating and creative interaction with others, and through activities, separate from your relationship.


    You will learn how to walk the transitional path from unconscious to conscious relationship, which is a self-affirming act of consciousness in itself, and to align yourself with the best in you, which means to align your personality with your unconditioned core essence soul.


    You will learn how to know who you are and what you feel, to be responsive and expressive, and to communicate in an empowered compassionate way who you are and what you want.


    How to change your emotional biochemistry and let go of stress and mood addictions.


    What it takes to turn ourselves and our partner on in sex.












    IMAGINE HOW IT MIGHT BE IF:

    Instead of accepting things as they are, you and your partner formed an evolutionary partnership for the purpose of creating a conscious relationship and an intimate passionate love.


    IMAGINE HOW IT WOULD BE IF:


    You replaced the right-wrong game with taking responsibility for your own feelings and
    communicating in a clear, empowered, respectful way who you really are and what you want!


    IMAGINE HOW IT COULD BE IF:


    You found a good balance between being true to yourself and living your own life on the one hand, and caring for your partner and the needs of the relationship, on the other.


    IMAGINE HOW IT COULD BE IF:


    You understood your own, and your partners psychological dynamics and how they inter-relate in your relationship – and how to change them for the better.


    IMAGINE HOW IT COULD BE IF:


    You had the capacity to bring mystery into the familiar, uncertainty into the predictable, and newness into the unknown, thereby solving the problem of familiarity in your relationship.


    IMAGINE HOW IT COULD BE IF:


    You really knew what it took to turn yourself and your partner on and have hot sex!


    IMAGINE HOW IT COULD BE IF:


    Anya Shekina and Paul Vogue, a highly skilled, professionally trained couple,

    who used their skills to transform their own relationship and the relationship of countless others, helped you and your partner achieve all of this?




    IMAGINE HOW IT MIGHT BE IF:




















    How do you know if there is enough unconsciousness in your relationship for it to be a roadblock to the intimacy and passion that you seek?

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